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But these tips can help you think through how talk to anyone about your sexual orientation or gender identity, whether at work, school, or with friends. So we will help you with how to come out, responses depending on how people react, and resources for both you and your parents.

The good news is that being honest and real with your parents can build a better relationship — eventually. And you will feel relieved no matter what. Keep it short. If the conversation becomes too intense or emotional, it is OK to end it. Your parent youre mom has the big gay questions, is confused, is worried.

Empathize and offer information. Your parent is angry, upset or condemning. Reassure, set a boundary, or end the conversation. It may be helpful to know many initial reactions stem from fear and misinformation — fear of what you will face in society, fear they may have done something wrong as a parent, fear of what others will think of them or you, as well as the enormous amount of misinformation around LGBTQ.

You may not be able to answer all their questions, and you also deserve to preserve some privacy about your feelings and activities. But they will need good information and guidance, and you can help them find it. Providing resources can take many forms: a conversation, a list, a text or severalan email, a book, a conversation with an accepting family member you trust who might talk with them.

There are several excellent resources for you and for parents, but their approaches vary greatly. Some of the best are quite political and may not be the best first step. Our Most Visited Pages Below are some of the pages parents visit most on our website. Political Resources for Parents These are great resources, but the main websites are often quite political.

If your parents are conservative or not accepting, we suggest you send them to the direct links below, rather than to the main websites. Before we share more with you — know this: You are supported. You matter. You are loved. Deciding to come out to your parents. Plan for safety, and anticipate consequences.

Have a backup plan. If you are living with your parents, or are financially dependent, consider the risks before you come out to your parents. What is the worst case scenario? Will you need a place to stay? Will you be able to support yourself if needed? Will you be physically safe?

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If your worst case scenario is really bad, this may not be the time. If you are living apart from parents and are financially independent, this is less of a consideration. Keep in mind that your parents are in a different place than you on this path.